How to Have Amazing Sex When You Don’t Feel Body Confident According

We all deserve to enjoy sex but it’s not always easy, especially when intrusive thoughts about our body start to sneak in. Sex is an incredibly vulnerable activity and if we aren’t already confident with our bodies, it can make sex an awkward and uncomfortable experience. This can be especially true when it’s a causal encounter with a new partner, but it’s common in long-term relationships too.

A lack of body confidence can suck the fun out of sex.

When your mind is preoccupied with how your body looks, it makes it harder to connect with whoever you are playing with and prevents you from experiencing your body's full pleasure potential. Low self-esteem can also mean you are less likely to want sex, less likely to allow a partner to go down on you and less likely to ask for what you want in bed. Boo!

#1. Get naked more

This is one of the easiest and best tips I can give. If you have the house to yourself, get naked. Alone in your room? Get naked. Just had sex? Stay naked! The idea is to get used to the idea of being naked a lot and learn to appreciate your naked body.

If you do it enough, by the time you add another person to the naked mix it won’t seem so out of place, or like a massive event. It will just be you, naked again.

And, while you are at it, get touching and exploring that body of yours. It doesn’t need to be sexual, and you don’t need to be aroused, but just learning more about the ins and outs of your body will help to teach you what you do and don’t like when it comes to sex. And when you know exactly what you want, it is much easier to confidently express that to someone else.

The good news is that there are plenty of things you can practice feeling more comfortable with your naked body so you can focus more on the horny feels and less on worrying. Here are a few tips to make sure you still have amazing sex even when you aren’t feeling body confident.

#2. Visualise yourself feeling super confident

Basically, fake it till you make it. Start by thinking about the last sexual encounter you had where you felt truly confident and try to evoke that same feeling of confidence again.

Why were you so confident? What were you doing or saying? Where were you? Let that memory inspire you now without removing yourself from the moment too much. You want to use this as inspiration, not think about it the whole time, as the idea is that you will flourish in this sexual moment just as you did then.

#3. Strip at the same time as your partner

If you are going down the naked route, then try to strip down at the same time as your partner. This way both of you will be just as vulnerable as each other and you can focus on your own and the other person’s body in equal measure. There is no need to put on a show or dance about it if you don’t want to.

Also, keep this in mind next time you are with someone that you know (or can tell) is feeling a little nervous. It will help to put them at ease if you suggest stripping together or just start to do it as they do.

Of course, the other option here is to get yourselves so worked up that your clothes come off without you even realising it.

#4. Show off your skills

Just like flaunting your favourite physical asset, if you are feeling uncomfortable in intimate situations, then showing off your sexual skills is a great way to put your mind at ease. Feel empowered knowing that what you are doing feels amazing and you are having an awesome effect on their body. So much so that they couldn’t possibly focus on anything but how great you are making their body feel.

#5. Dim the lights and blast your favourite banging beat

This tip is an oldie but a goodie. When you dim the lights, you are impairing their ability to see you fully. So, dim the lights and pop on one of your favourite songs. Maybe it’s one that makes you feel sexy, one that reminds you of a great time or one that makes you lose all sense of anything but how good the song makes you feel. Turn it up and let those insecurities go.

#6. Believe their compliments

It might be difficult at the time but remember that you are in the situation you are in because your partner wanted you there and is attracted to you.

So, when they say you look amazing or that they love a part of you, let them. Don’t brush off their compliments, bask in them and believe them! They are under no obligation to compliment you after all.

It’s true that we really are our own worst critics, so let them appreciate you and take what they say with you when you leave too. Keep that compliment in the piggy bank for when you need it later.

Remember that confidence is all in your head and is not reflective of the way that you look or how other people see you. Body confidence in the bedroom is all about learning to love yourself (or at least not worry so much if you aren’t there yet), letting go of stress and allowing your mind and body to be completely tuned in to the amazing sex that is going on.

Plus having good sex can be a powerful way to reclaim confidence in your body by learning how to be present with it and considering its pleasure potential rather than solely focusing on how it looks.

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